1. We Don't Actually Want Sex All The Time
We just think we're supposed to want it all the time, and unfortunately, this seems to be what women think too. It's extraordinarily difficult for a man to say no to guaranteed sex, not only because it's considered unmanly, but because women tend to assume that something's "wrong." Nothing's wrong. Just like women, men only want sex... when they want it. The problem is that men are often terrible at knowing the difference between sex they want and sex they don't want until the awkward post-coital embrace. They really need to work on that one.
It Is About Power
The domination thing is no myth, but it's not a scary bad thing either. Men want you lost in a raging, out of your mind, forgetting your own name, ocean of ecstasy. They want to you to completely lose control and they want to be the guy who took it from you. But, really, it's not about power 'cause everybody wins, right?
3. We Appreciate Sex for Sex’s Sake
Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a little “throw-me-down sex” is the right medicine. According to Joe Kort, PhD, a psychotherapist and sexologist, “Men want their wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. For men, it’s not about dominating a woman, but ravishing her.” On occasion, try letting him ravish you.
4. We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think
Men are accused of being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this. “Men see sex as a celebration,” says Dr. Schaefer. “They wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to it. We move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. It’s easy to allow demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords us. On the long list of priorities, it should not be on the bottom rung.” If that doesn’t make you want to “seize the day” (or something else), consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the “bonding hormone,” bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.
Well Ladies, now that we know this what do we do with this piece of information?
